Signs Of Infidelity

DOES YOUR SPOUSE FIT THE BILL ON ANY OF THESE?

 

So you have the idea that your loved one may be cheating on you and you are wondering what are some of the signs of a cheater?

 

Below are some of the different signs that cheaters might display whether they know it or not.  No matter how hard a cheater may try to cover it up. Some things just cannot be held back and usually they do not even realize the red flags they are raising.

 

 

While this list gives many warning signs to look for, make sure you proceed with caution.  Just because your loved one may display a few, or many, of the signs, this does NOT positively mean they are being unfaithful.  It could be any number of reasons outside of cheating: be it a problem at work, with family, etc; that maybe they have just not wanted to share with you yet.

 While reading the below list, REMEMBER, These signs are only meant to give you an idea of how cheaters act during and after indiscretion.  It is a very good tool when used correctly, but the last thing you should do is accuse your loved one because of this list alone.

Signs of a Cheating Wife

 

 

 

 

You find birth control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you’ve had a vasectomy.

She sets up a new e-mail account and doesn’t tell you about it.

She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.

She buys herself new underwear.

She sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to her office.

The toilet bowl seat is up, and when you left home it was down.

She’s unconventionally spending money on new clothes.

She stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

She stops wearing her wedding ring.

When a female is having an affair she tends to have more of a “glow” about her.

Signs of a Cheating Husband

 

He carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

You find a hair on the seat of his car that doesn’t appear to be yours.

You find unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck or back.

He suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

He works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.

He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress’s home.

His clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume.

 

 

You see lipstick on your husband’s shirt.

 

Signs of a Cheating Spouse

 

He/She shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.

Spouse’s co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.

He/She has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.

He/She suddenly needs a cell phone or pager and you are discouraged from ever looking at it or using it.

You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.

He/She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.

He/She begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

He/She may make certain their cell phone or pager cannot be answered by you by hiding it or taking it with them wherever they go.

He/She is secretive about their cell phone or pager bill and pay it themselves when you have always paid the bill in the past.

He/She will not allow you access to their computer or they suddenly shut down the computer when you walk into the room.

He/She spends an excessive amount of time on the computer when you are asleep.

He/She may password protect their laptop or computer to keep out suspicious eyes.

 

 

He/She may delete all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

He/She may suddenly have to work late or have all kinds of new obligations that take them away from home repeatedly or for long periods of time.

He/She picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

He/She may no longer want sex or make excuses to not have sex.

He/She may begin to make “kinky” requests or suggest wildly erotic play during sex including things you have never done before.

He/She may also show an increased interest in sex.

He/She may suddenly begin to treat you extremely nice; more so than usual.

He/She may begin to put distance between you or show a lack of interest in what has been the routine with few, if any, excuses for the change in their behavior.

If your loved one works with people such as at a bar or restaurant, especially as a waitress or bartender, they might suddenly tell you not to visit them at work.

The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.

You find items of intimate apparel that you did not give your spouse.

Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is “touchy”

He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.

Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don’t show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to upkeep the home (i.e. lawn care, house cleaning, home repairs, etc…..)

He/She may arrive home smelling faintly of perfume/cologne or another person’s body.

He/She may arrive home and head straight into the shower or bath.

STEPS TO TAKE

Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair are lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains.

Grooming habits might change. Cheaters could be more attentive to their person (i.e. the way they dress, frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc…).

 After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.

 Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem “when in doubt check them out”.

 Be tuned in to home telephone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up.

 Many cheaters use cellular telephones to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called. A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.

 Female cheaters are more discreet in the selection of a lover. This is most likely because of their concern of Sexually Transmitted Disease’s (STD’s). Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship rather than a “one night stand”. In past years men were the aggressors, in society today, with the increase of women in the work force, women have become equally aggressive.

You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.

At the beginning of an affair, the mate that is cheating may be more attentive to his/her spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.

 The cheater sometimes has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. if he/she didn’t act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn’t be doing the things I do).

 You may want to monitor your spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.

 

Remember: These signs are only meant to give you an idea of how cheaters act during and after indiscretion.  It is a very good tool when used correctly, but the last thing you should do is accuse your loved one because of this list alone.

 

Disclaimer: Although we work closely with attorneys we are not authorized to give legal advice or give legal representation